Part 1: Self-Awareness and Healing (1–10)
- When you think about yourself right now, what do you feel most strongly?
- A. Confident, positive
- B. Anxious, restless
- C. Sad, regretful
- D. Neutral, calm
- After a breakup, what do you usually do to recover the fastest?
- A. Start a new relationship right away
- B. Immerse yourself in sadness for a while
- C. Practice meditation or journaling
- D. Socialize and seek support from friends
- How would you rate your ability to self-care (rest, nutrition, exercise…)?
- A. Very good, consistent
- B. Fair, sometimes neglectful
- C. Occasionally attentive
- D. Nearly completely neglected
- In the past, have you easily forgiven yourself when you made mistakes?
- A. Very easily, learning from mistakes
- B. It takes time, but I eventually forgive myself
- C. Hard, I often blame myself
- D. Rarely forgive myself
- To what extent do you love and respect yourself?
- A. Very high, I deserve happiness
- B. Fairly high, but it fluctuates
- C. Average, I often compare myself to others
- D. Low, I often doubt my worth
- When you encounter strong emotions (anger, sadness…), do you recognize and accept them?
- A. Always recognize them quickly
- B. I have to make an effort to notice them
- C. I often ignore them and hold them inside
- D. Rarely aware of them
- How do you accept your flaws?
- A. Face them and look for ways to improve
- B. Accept them but feel ashamed
- C. Hide them, rarely admit them
- D. Don’t accept them, force myself to be perfect
- When you are alone, how do you feel?
- A. Free, comfortable
- B. Neutral, nothing special
- C. Lonely, empty
- D. Uncomfortable facing myself
- How do you maintain a healthy lifestyle (sleep, nutrition, exercise…)?
- A. Very strictly, with a clear plan
- B. Fairly well, but flexible at times
- C. Occasionally pay attention
- D. Hardly pay attention
- Do you clearly understand the main cause of hurt in your past relationship?
- A. Very clear, I’ve analyzed it thoroughly
- B. Aware but haven’t fully resolved it
- C. Vague, hard to pinpoint
- D. Reluctant to revisit the past
Part 2: Attachment Style (11–20)
- When you have a conflict with your partner, how do you usually respond?
- A. Address it directly right away
- B. Avoid it and stay silent
- C. Explode emotionally, then regret it
- D. Ask friends to intervene
- How much do you trust your partner in the relationship?
- A. Completely trust
- B. Mostly trust
- C. Occasionally doubt
- D. Hard to trust
- What level of intimacy do you desire between you two?
- A. Very high, share everything
- B. High, but need personal space
- C. Moderate, keep some things private
- D. Low, maintain distance
- When feelings of dependency arise, how do you handle them?
- A. Recognize and rebalance
- B. Try to hide them, fear being taken advantage of
- C. Hard to control, easily jealous
- D. Unaware of my dependency
- How do you usually show care?
- A. Words of affirmation
- B. Acts of service
- C. Quality time
- D. Gifts and romantic gestures
- When your partner is silent, how do you feel?
- A. Worried, check in on them
- B. Disappointed, sad
- C. Neutral, respect their space
- D. Angry, blame them
- Do you easily share your emotional needs with your partner?
- A. Very easily, comfortable expressing myself
- B. Fairly easily, but cautious
- C. Hard, usually keep quiet
- D. Never share
- When you’re apart, what do you usually do?
- A. Stay in touch regularly
- B. Send brief messages
- C. Let time pass
- D. Feel restless, anxious
- How do you react when you feel a sense of loss?
- A. Discuss openly to release tension
- B. Hide my feelings and endure quietly
- C. Talk to friends about it
- D. Relieve stress with other activities
- Are you comfortable taking the initiative in the relationship?
- A. Very comfortable, confident
- B. Sometimes hesitant
- C. Rarely dare to start
- D. Never take initiative
Part 3: Love Languages (21–30)
- When you feel loved, what warms your heart the most?
- A. Words of affirmation
- B. Quality time and attentive listening
- C. Physical touch
- D. Surprise gifts
- How do you express your love?
- A. Saying “I love you”
- B. Cooking or helping with tasks
- C. Hugs and holding hands
- D. Giving gifts or writing letters
- When you’re stressed, what do you most want your partner to do?
- A. Give you silent space
- B. Offer encouraging words
- C. Send text messages or call to check in
- D. Bring food or small gifts
- When you miss someone, what do you like to do?
- A. Video call and chat
- B. Journal your feelings
- C. Send spontaneous messages
- D. Prepare a small surprise
- How important are words of praise in emotional connection?
- A. Very important
- B. Fairly important
- C. Occasionally needed
- D. Not important
- For you, the value of a sentimental gift is:
- A. A symbol of love
- B. A display of caring
- C. Doesn’t need to be expensive
- D. Not important
- What do you prioritize most when you’re together?
- A. Sharing feelings
- B. Doing activities together
- C. Just being near each other in silence
- D. Soft, affectionate gestures
- You feel most connected when you do which activity together?
- A. Traveling and exploring
- B. Cooking or watching movies
- C. Meditating or doing yoga
- D. Exercising
- When you’re emotional, what gesture do you want most?
- A. A tight hug
- B. A forehead kiss
- C. Holding hands
- D. Hearing loving words
- How do you define “quality time”?
- A. 1–2 hours of deep conversation
- B. Spending the whole day together
- C. Fun activities together
- D. Quiet presence side by side
Part 4: Communication and Interaction (31–40)
- When conflict arises, you usually:
- A. Speak directly to resolve it immediately
- B. Avoid it and wait to cool down
- C. Explode, then apologize
- D. Seek advice from others
- How do you listen to your partner most effectively?
- A. Eye contact and nodding
- B. Noting their emotions
- C. Restating what they said
- D. Silent time for them to express
- You express your emotions through:
- A. Clear verbal communication
- B. Body language
- C. Tone and pacing
- D. Messages or letters
- When you’re angry, you usually:
- A. Go for a walk
- B. Yell to release tension
- C. Stay silent and withdraw
- D. Write in a journal
- How do you respond when your partner criticizes you?
- A. Listen and reflect
- B. Argue back immediately
- C. Feel hurt
- D. Hide your emotions
- When seeking deeper understanding, you ask:
- A. “How do you feel…?”
- B. “Why did you…?”
- C. “What do you think about…?”
- D. “Do you feel uncomfortable when…?”
- You prefer your next communication plan to be:
- A. Scheduled at a fixed time daily
- B. Flexible based on circumstances
- C. Only when important matters arise
- D. Via messaging apps
- You stay calm in communication by:
- A. Deep breathing
- B. Counting from 1 to 10
- C. Taking a warm shower
- D. Listening to relaxing music
- You relieve tension during conversation by:
- A. Sharing a funny story
- B. Reminiscing about happy memories
- C. Gently changing the subject
- D. Embracing silence
- How do you adjust your tone during dialogue?
- A. Gentle and slow
- B. Enthusiastic and lively
- C. Deep and serious
- D. Cheerful and humorous
Part 5: Boundaries and Attracting Healthy Love (41–50)
- When someone looks at you kindly, you usually:
- A. Smile back
- B. Avoid eye contact
- C. Remain silent and observe
- D. Initiate conversation
- On what factors do you choose a potential partner?
- A. Shared life values
- B. Physical attractiveness
- C. Hobbies and passions
- D. First impression
- In an ideal partner, what do you prioritize most?
- A. Trustworthiness and honesty
- B. Romance and humor
- C. A stable career
- D. Compatible personality
- How do you establish personal boundaries?
- A. State them clearly from the start
- B. Gradually adjust them
- C. Expect them to understand on their own
- D. Rarely mention them
- When someone crosses your boundaries, how do you react?
- A. Gently remind them
- B. React angrily and cut off
- C. Stay silent and withdraw later
- D. Discuss calmly
- Are you confident in expressing your needs to your partner?
- A. Very confident
- B. Fairly confident, sometimes hesitant
- C. Rarely voice them
- D. Never express them
- How do you balance personal life and love?
- A. Make a clear schedule
- B. Be flexible as needed
- C. Prioritize being together above all
- D. Prioritize work
- How do you evaluate a partner’s attractiveness?
- A. Confident demeanor
- B. Way of speaking
- C. Gestures and eye contact
- D. Shared values and goals
- What is your relationship goal?
- A. Growing together
- B. Deep understanding
- C. Joy and laughter
- D. Stability and longevity
- To be ready for a new relationship, you usually:
- A. Improve yourself
- B. Learn communication skills
- C. Heal all past wounds
- D. Open your heart to receive
Scoring Guide
- A = 4 points
- B = 3 points
- C = 2 points
- D = 1 point
Maximum total score: 50 × 4 = 200
Minimum total score: 50 × 1 = 50
Calculation and Result Classification
- Add up all points from the 50 questions to get your total score.
- Compare your total score against the following scale:
| Score Range | Interpretation |
|---|---|
| 160–200 | You are very ready for a healthy relationship |
| 120–159 | You have a strong foundation, with a few areas to strengthen |
| 80–119 | You need to invest more time in self-care and emotional healing |
| 50–79 | You should prioritize self-awareness and recovery |
Suggested Next Steps
- If you score 160–200: Maintain your self-love practices and continue expressing your emotions openly.
- If you score 120–159: Identify the specific areas that need improvement and create a targeted development plan.
- If you score 80–119: Focus on self-care through meditation, journaling, and participating in support groups.
- If you score 50–79: Seek professional guidance, rebuild your self-esteem, and restore a sense of security.
Wishing you a fulfilling journey of healing and attracting perfect love!